Even when you do wrong…do right

{I feel the need to preface this post in saying that I am not talking about anyone in a relationship where there is abuse going on. That is a much deeper subject and I am not speaking on that.}

When it comes to relationships, even when you do wrong…do right!

Wow! Deep! Or completely ludicrous?!  I mess up a lot when it comes to relationships.  And, people in relationships with me, mess up.  For instance, with my kids, I don’t always respond the way I know I should to the tenth question asked or to an attitude they are expressing to me.  With my husband, I don’t always react in a very healthy way.  When I see his dirty clothes, once again, on the bathroom floor or when the first words out of his mouth when he comes through the door is, “What’s for dinner?”, I can get a little funky in my response to him.  With friends, poor communication and assumptions can lead to hurt feelings and misunderstandings.  Co-workers can get under ones skin and curt attitudes can become the normal response.  Let’s face it – relationships in life are TOUGH!  I mean, need I say more than the words ‘In-Laws’ ?

Why is it that sometimes it’s so hard to make a kind response, when it comes to the people around you and the ones you love?  (And I’m not talking about it being that irritable time of the month. But honestly, that should never be a woman’s excuse to be rude and unkind.  Have I used it? Yes.  Does it make it right? No.)

I don’t know how many times I kick myself and think, ‘why did I respond that way?’.  So, my BIG goal is to be real, be honest, but most of all treat others the way I would want to be treated when it comes to relationships.  And, might I add, to respond with kindness even when they don’t respond that way to me!  (Yikes, maybe I am going too far with that one. LOL)   So, as I continue to work at NOT messing up in relationships. I will still be choosing to correct the mistakes that I do make. In a tone and a manner that shows love and kindness.  (Oh, boy! I feel like we need to break out some Hootie and the Blow Fish… with a little love and some tenderness…)

How will this look?  Or at least how I am hoping! 🙂

  • I avoid someone and realize it—then I will go engage in a conversation.
  • I say something rude and realize it—I will apologize and ask for forgiveness.
  • I get annoyed by someone and realize it—I will give a little grace & remember the grace I would wish others to extend to me.
  • Someone hurts me & I stay wallowing in that hurt, but then realize it— I will set them free & forgive them (which is really freeing me too) and speak blessings over them (this is all done privately for my own heart and so I don’t continue to respond to them in hurtful ways).

Life is too short to harbor grudges or to stay in messed up relationships.  So when you realize you did wrong… go and do right.  Easier said than done.  We’ll see how this goes.  Wish me luck and I wish you the same. ♥♥♥♥♥

 

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